Jamie Lavender, LMFT
Bay Area LMFT for addictions and relationships
- Harm reduction approach
- Attachment-focused care
- Flexible online sessions
About Jamie Lavender
Jamie Lavender is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in the Bay Area of California who brings a warm, client-centered approach to clinical work. He creates a supportive space where people can feel more grounded, speak honestly, and explore what is weighing on them when other supports have not been enough. Many people come because relationships are the source of pain, or because they are struggling with a relationship to substances or impulses that interfere with daily life.
His definition of substance-related concerns is broad and includes psychiatric medications, "street" or club drugs, opiates and prescription pain medications, cannabis, cigarettes, and alcohol, as well as behavioral impulses such as gambling or problematic spending. He has extensive experience addressing these issues using harm reduction - working with clients where they are and considering a range of options from moderation to abstinence, or continuing use while exploring change in therapy. The focus is on practical, sustainable steps that fit each person’s life and values.
Jamie works with a wide range of challenges including grief and loss, parenting and blended family dynamics, intimacy and sexual concerns, attachment and relationship issues, trauma and abuse, depression, anxiety, and caregiver stress. He also attends to body image and eating concerns, the impact of systems of privilege and oppression, and the complexities of identity and culture. Across these areas he emphasizes helping people reclaim their own voice, build personal power, and make room for new possibilities to emerge.
His definition of substance-related concerns is broad and includes psychiatric medications, "street" or club drugs, opiates and prescription pain medications, cannabis, cigarettes, and alcohol, as well as behavioral impulses such as gambling or problematic spending. He has extensive experience addressing these issues using harm reduction - working with clients where they are and considering a range of options from moderation to abstinence, or continuing use while exploring change in therapy. The focus is on practical, sustainable steps that fit each person’s life and values.
Jamie works with a wide range of challenges including grief and loss, parenting and blended family dynamics, intimacy and sexual concerns, attachment and relationship issues, trauma and abuse, depression, anxiety, and caregiver stress. He also attends to body image and eating concerns, the impact of systems of privilege and oppression, and the complexities of identity and culture. Across these areas he emphasizes helping people reclaim their own voice, build personal power, and make room for new possibilities to emerge.
Areas of Expertise
Primary Focus
Also Specializes In
Stress, AnxietyLGBTFamily conflictsIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesCoping with life changesCompassion fatigue
Additional Focus Areas
Attachment issuesBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCaregiver issues and stressCommitment issuesCommunication problemsDivorce and separationDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesForgivenessGuilt and shameImpulsivityLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisMood disordersMulticultural concernsPregnancy and childbirthPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexualityWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic Approach
Attachment-Based Therapy Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) Existential Therapy Gottman Method Imago Relationship Therapy Mindfulness Therapy Motivational Interviewing Psychodynamic Therapy Somatic Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy Internal Family Systems
Frequently Asked Questions
How much experience does Jamie Lavender have?
Jamie Lavender has 21 years of experience.
Is Jamie Lavender a licensed therapist?
Yes. He holds the credential LMFT, which means Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. License details: CA LMFT 48973.
In which languages does Jamie Lavender provide therapy?
English
Where is Jamie Lavender located?
California
How can I work with Jamie Lavender as my therapist?
You can work with Jamie Lavender through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Does Jamie Lavender work with international clients?
Jamie Lavender does not currently work with international clients.
How much does therapy with Jamie Lavender cost?
Cost can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist’s availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.
How can I get started with therapy?
Getting started is quick. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session, which may take place by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.
Therapeutic Approaches and Online Support
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how early and ongoing relationship patterns shape emotional responses and current close relationships. It helps people understand attachment needs, improve intimacy, and address long-standing patterns that contribute to conflict or distance. Client-Centered Therapy emphasizes an empathic, nonjudgmental stance from the therapist, creating a space where clients can explore their feelings and choices and build self-awareness and self-esteem. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) examines the connections between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and offers practical skills to manage symptoms of anxiety, depression, and stress and to change unhelpful patterns.
Choosing the right approach is part of the therapeutic process. Jamie Lavender works collaboratively with clients to identify which methods fit their goals, needs, and preferences, and he adapts strategies as progress unfolds. Sessions can take place as video calls, phone meetings, live chat, or text-based messaging, which helps accommodate work, family life, and geographic constraints. These online options allow licensed professionals and therapists to provide consistent support and flexible scheduling so clients can access care in ways that suit their daily lives.