Toby Messer, NCPS
Analytical therapist for meaningful change
- CBT and DBT informed
- Analytical and psychodynamic approaches
- Practical present-focused change
About Toby Messer
Toby Messer is a solution-focused, analytical psychotherapist who combines a clear emphasis on present-day change with attention to the deeper roots of behavior and emotion. He seeks to understand why people think and act the way they do while supporting them to make active, meaningful shifts in their everyday lives. Toby frames his work around practical steps as well as insight, aiming to help people reduce distress and develop more effective ways of coping.
He integrates behavioral methods such as cognitive behavioral techniques, rational emotive strategies, and dialectical skills with longer-term analytical perspectives drawn from psychodynamic work. This blended approach allows him to address immediate difficulties while exploring underlying patterns that sustain those difficulties, supporting change that endures. He also holds the NCPS credential, a professional psychotherapy credential that denotes formal training in psychotherapy practice and standards.
He integrates behavioral methods such as cognitive behavioral techniques, rational emotive strategies, and dialectical skills with longer-term analytical perspectives drawn from psychodynamic work. This blended approach allows him to address immediate difficulties while exploring underlying patterns that sustain those difficulties, supporting change that endures. He also holds the NCPS credential, a professional psychotherapy credential that denotes formal training in psychotherapy practice and standards.
Areas of Expertise
Primary Focus
Also Specializes In
AddictionsLGBTFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD
Additional Focus Areas
AbandonmentAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHoardingHospice and end-of-life counselingImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPregnancy and childbirthProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySocial anxiety and phobiaTrichotillomaniaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues
Therapeutic Approach
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Attachment-Based Therapy Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Existential Therapy Jungian Therapy Mindfulness Therapy Motivational Interviewing Psychodynamic Therapy Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy Systemic Therapy
Frequently Asked Questions
How much experience does Toby Messer have?
He has 11 years of experience.
Is Toby Messer a licensed therapist?
Yes. He holds the NCPS credential, a recognized psychotherapy credential.
In which languages does Toby Messer provide therapy?
He provides therapy in English.
Where is Toby Messer located?
He is located in the United Kingdom.
How can I work with Toby Messer as my therapist?
You can work with Toby Messer through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Does Toby Messer work with international clients?
Yes, he works with international clients.
How much does therapy with Toby Messer cost?
The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be canceled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.
How can I get started with therapy?
Getting started is quick and straightforward. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with a therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.
Integrating Therapeutic Approaches for Online Support
Toby commonly draws on cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy alongside attachment-based ideas. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying and changing unhelpful thoughts and behaviors to reduce symptoms and improve daily functioning. Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) teaches practical skills for managing intense emotions, improving distress tolerance, and strengthening interpersonal effectiveness. Attachment-based therapy explores patterns of relating and emotional bonds to help people understand how early relationships influence current connections and coping.
Finding the right approach is collaborative - Toby will work with each person to determine which methods best match their needs, goals, and preferences. He adapts techniques to the individual rather than using a one-size-fits-all model, and the choice of approach can evolve as therapy progresses.
Online therapy offers flexible ways to engage, including video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. These options make it easier to fit therapy into busy schedules, access support from different locations, and maintain continuity of care when life circumstances change. Working with licensed professionals via these formats can provide consistent therapeutic support while accommodating personal needs and practical constraints.